Does God Choose Your Mate?

I think [when you grow up to marriageable age] God has someone picked out for you and in his time he will send you your husband/wife.

~~W. B.

Well, maybe.

I look to the example of Abraham.  He obtained a promise from God, that he and Sarah would have a son.  But when they grew tired after years of waiting, they began to second-guess God, and tried to accomplish the Promise through their own natural means.  But all they did was mess things up, introducing imperfection into God’s perfect plan.

My own experience also suggests that if someone wants God’s perfect will (as we all should), one has to pray, then wait as long as it takes.  If one does not wait for God’s perfect will, then one may get one’s own will and its consequences, which will not be perfect, and might be horrible.

It has been said that the only thing worse than not getting what you want might be getting it; and I further submit that a worse thing than not being married might be finding oneself married to the wrong person. To quote an even more timeworn saying, “Marry in haste, repent in leisure.”

Until the Lord acts, or speaks, one has to do without.  Lacking what one does not think he can live without is often God’s purifying fire, a “thorn in the flesh” (2 Corinthians 12:6-10).  If it is true that God and eternity are what really matters, as Christians purport to believe, then suffering in this life is of little consequence.  Both provision and lack, both blessing and suffering, both pleasure and pain, must all be seen through the eyes of faith.


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